Modern Tipping Etiquette: Navigating the "Gray Areas"
Wedding tipping isn't just about generosity; it's about knowing the industry standards to avoid awkwardness. While some gratuities are nearly mandatory (like Hair & Makeup), others are professional gestures of thanks for going the extra mile.
The Owner vs. Employee Rule
A long-standing rule of thumb is that you do not need to tip the owner of a company. For example, if your photographer is the sole proprietor of their studio, their fee already reflects their profit. However, if they are an employee of a large agency, a tip is highly encouraged.
Tip Recommended: Waitstaff, Bartenders, Limo Drivers,
Stylists.
Optional/Gift: Planners, Lead Photographers, Florists.
For a standard wedding, the couple prepares their envelopes 48 hours in advance:
- Beauty: $150 (20% of service).
- DJ: $100 (Flat thank-you).
- Catering Lead: $100 (To be shared or kept depending on contract).
- Transportation: $40 (20% of booking).
Pro Tip: Write the vendor's name and "Thank you!" on each envelope.
This
personal touch is often more remembered than the dollar amount.
Wedding Tipping Strategic FAQ
Unlike a restaurant, you have a contract. If a vendor fails to deliver, do not tip. Address the issue after the honeymoon via your planner or a professional email.
For high-end vendors like Planners, a handwritten note and a thoughtful gift (like a bottle of wine or a gift card) are often more meaningful than cash.